This seat is taken

Stop trying to be someone else!!! Why is this so hard to do? I mean can we just stop looking at each other and taking notes. Be you, Be DIFFERENT. Trying to fit in is one thing but trying to take on the personality or tone of another is flat out ridiculous. I tell my kids to be different. Do not confirm to predigested thoughts and ideas. BE YOU.

Do you realize how taxing it is to try to be someone other than yourself. You are constantly in competition with someone else an coming up short. At some point you have to come to understand, that sit is already taken. Find out why you are so unhappy with you and fix it.

Over the summer my daughter and I watched a great deal of Catfish. This is a televised show on MTV/Hulu. Catfish is about people taking on the face/personality of someone else and fooling people over social media. The Catfish usually takes photos of someone that they don’t know personally but they like what they see. They know that by using this person’s picture they will attract the type of person that they desperately desire to be. I truly feel that the catfish actually starts to feel better about themselves when they are portraying to be someone else.

I am always sad at the conclusion of show. Okay, so here comes Nev and Max with the Victim (the person that was cat fished) and they knock on the catfish door and out walks a sad sole.  I can not tell you how may times an overweight  person walks out the door with their head down and looking so pitiful. The Catfish usually will say,
“I know that I am not what you expected and I am so sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you but I loved how it felt when you desired to be with me and I knew if you saw me you wouldn’t want to talk to me anymore”. The catfish continues with ” Everything about our relationship was real EXCEPT, I’m not who you thought I was”.

I just want to reach in that TV and grab the catfish and tell them that they are enough.  Spend time and work on your internal self. Once you love yourself and remove anyone and anything that reminds you of what you use to be or even worse, what you never were but what they wanted you to be. Stop trying to be someone else and stand in your truth and love it.

It is amazing how good you feel about yourself when you start to eat clean, workout and start to better yourself mentally. For sure, it is okay to have someone that motivates you to be better but don’t take it to an unhealthy place.

I speak from a familiar place, I wasn’t always confident. I felt like I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, or talented enough. I always wanted to change things about me that would make me a little more desirable. But then I realized that feeling this way about myself is a waste of time. I’m losing valuable time, I’m losing at life. So I decided to stop focusing on the things that I hated about me and instead what I LOVE. My confidence and self love grew. I stopped looking at the already taken seat and sat in my own….wearing my crown and all.

You could have chosen any blog to read but you chose mine and I’m honored.

~Bella Donna~

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